Taking Responsibility

Greetings All!  I’ve been concerned that I’m spending more of my consciousness on videos that I do for my  Facebook personal page Just Sayin’   Kaye A. Peters, and also for the private group of which I’m an active member, BEROYAL.COM, in The Royal Society,  than on my ‘first born’, my baby, my blog,  Liferays.net.    This said, I have spontaneously come to this outlet today, because I am ready to share something that belongs to everyone.   I now begin.

My life continues to unfold….I am witness to it all, because  my process is an active introspective learn-as-I-go kind of thing, like an audible or visual journal, if you will.  I’ve come to a joy in my transformation process that goes like this:  What I am observing outside of me, is exactly what I’m thinking and believing on the inside of me!  Thus, if I don’t like what I’m observing, I can’t be liking what’s inside of me either!  I create my world in which I live.  I am seeing others as I think they are by my own definitions of my reality.   So, if I’m seeing ugly, negative, sourness, disharmony, chaos, discomfort, lies, cheating, fear, discontent, that is exactly the reflection of what is inside of me.  I’m not saying I, personally, see all of this..  What I am saying is I’m in touch with the fact that whatever I perceive, is exactly what I am inside!

This is not a fatalistic perception.   I know I can change it and this  provides me with two very important strengths:  I am free to do so, to obtain the peace and  harmony I am now insistent to have in my space around me, and I have the inherent, innate power within me to change myself inside and the space outside that has emanated from within me.

For those of us who find discontent in our lives at any level, where complaining has become a norm and we are out of harmony with oneself firstly, and all of those around us, secondly, we can make the freedom choice to go within and begin to excavate our very nature and make it the truth of exactly who we want to be….inside and out.  I’m talking much more than the glass half-full vs. half-empty!   I am the ideal person to make this comparison because I am one of the most optimistic people….that translates to also being a dreamer!    I’m guilty by self-admission!  Now, I can relegate to the  dreamer inside of me to take hold of the reins of my life, and think and believe within me exactly the way I want the world to be around me.  Keep in mind, by writing this and stating it as my truth, I am ascribing it to me and my life principles as well.

It escapes me why human beings shy away from the privilege of taking full responsibility for their lives.  If we blame others or circumstances  for our failures and unhappiness, we have no power at all – for we can’t change others or circumstances.  BUT, if we see that we are the ones responsible for how we do things, see things, perceive others, judge everything in front of us, we are in FULL POWER to change ALL OF IT!  Do we really take joy in kibitzing our own life and circumstances and philosophizing as a voyeur,  living our own life vicariously, when we could instead enjoy the privilege of living our lives deliciously and harmoniously in wonderment of  that which is right in front of us in all glory and perfection?

Having written this now, I know I won’t concern myself anymore with when and how I provide my messages because I have full faith and trust I will do at the appropriate time and through the appropriate medium of communication that which is to my greatest good and to the greatest good of all others present.

Rose-colored glasses?  No match for authentic.

 

 

Many years ago I went to a psychologist to discuss a very narrow piece of my life that I wanted “fixed”!

I was having problems extricating my sons’  lives and problems from my own.   It had gone so far that when someone asked me how I was, I’d respond with what was going on with my sons and how it was affecting me!  After a few sessions, I learned it was I who was having the problem separating my life from my sons’!

I think it is terribly hard to live in spite of,  not because of, another’s behavior.   For years I thought if only my sons would  listen to me, then everything would be just fine!   It took a therapist to remind if they didn’t listen to me when they were 10 and 11, whatever made me think they would listen to me when they were 22 and 23!

End of story?  Yes, but not the end of my relearning, to this day these same facts of my life:   Anything anyone else is up to – no matter who they are or how close they are to me, is not reason enough for me to blame them for how I feel or how bad my life is going!  Simple to say, not so easy to do!

Let’s face it, it’s lots easier for me to point a finger and think “if only you………then I could and would be much happier…..”, or whatever.  It’s the “If only” that starts me out all wrong.

God Grant me the Serenity to Accept the Things I cannot Change

Courage to Change the Things I can

And the Wisdom to Know the Difference.

Each time I read these words, I interpret them a bit differently.  Each time, I feel more responsibility to make sure I’m working to change the ‘whatever’ (not whomever) I can! 

Not long ago I found it necessary to refer to these words and was reminded it is only my feelings that I am responsible for, not the actions of others.  And,  it is my responsibility to figure out what I am willing and/or able to change about myself, or any given situation, that could have a positive effect on me and make my life easier.  I am then able to reach deep within my “wisdom place” and make the endpoint choice that brings me peace.

IF MY DOG, ROSE, DIGS ONE MORE HOLE I’M GOING TO TETHER HER UP TO THE CLOTHES LINE!  I CAN TAKE CARE OF THIS!

It's Up To Me

It’s Up To Me!